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Describe An Experience, Situation, Or Sports Using Better Words & Better Language Instead of Violent Words & Language

“Win fun enjoy living a robust life making lives better to set personal best records experiencing intelligent breakthroughs in human performance, life, organizational development & breakthroughs.  That means some win more, each wins, and no one loses unless there is violence.” – Raj Gavurla“

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Seeing the violence occurring locally, nationally, and throughout the world, what can be done to bring civility? Why are people verbally attacking each other maliciously, denigrating, and degrading them self or another person? 

This doesn’t honor the human dignity people need to help and work together to forward, elevate, and thrive humanity individually and collectively to raise the standard of living making people a better life, better living, and better future.

The English language is a lexicon of robust words of vibrancy and comity. How come more people don’t use them instead of violent words to describe non-violent experiences, situations, and sporting events? From the early days one can think we’ve come a long way from having to literally fight to survive and eat daily. Therefore, using violent words instead of killing was the next level of success. Hence, the fight/flight response. Important to know there are more responses bringing an abundance of sharing and connection. How about the sharing with each other without putting each other on the defensive response, the only win fun better common outcomes response, or the make lives better response, prevent deaths response, and save lives response?

With this sharing, connection, and building relationships with good communication more is learned and apply the learning. What are examples:

1. Someone says “we, they, you or I killed them” or “I killed him or her.” when referring to an experience, situation, or sporting event. Really, who was killed? Thankfully, no one.
2. In business or on a team people dismissing an idea or someone’s input saying, “you don’t know anything” or taking something a colleague said out of context and having a “grudge” against them instead of talking with them to help seeing this as an opportunity to correct a colleague to promote your values, good communication, and good relationship building to make your organization stronger. Your colleague will be thankful for you making the effort to embrace them versus disliking them and other colleagues will sense a good workplace culture and environment.
3. When watching basketball, I hear announcers say and “a dagger” or “go for the jugular” to describe a three pointer or dunk. I’m glad there wasn’t “a dagger” and everyone’s “jugular” is in place. I would much rather hear it was an amazing high arching shot soft through the net or they are finishing or closing the game.
4. Then, there is the “punch them in the mouth” or “we’ll kick your _ _ _.” Gratefully, there was no fist fight and no one was kicked. I would much rather hear win fun better outcomes the right way or what’s important is what we do and how we perform or play not what they do.

This usage of violent and malicious words and language is projecting itself into politics. Whether it’s during a presidential campaign or when politicians rally their base to “fight”. Some people take this literally being frustrated, have no emotional control, and cause societal violence. Why not instead rally them to “win fun better common outcomes” or “work together”?

These are just a few of the examples coming to my mind. My learning point is each example can be spruced with better words and better language making the description of the experience or situation more meaningful and pleasurable. It also becomes an educational teaching moment on people skills, realizing the essence of life, citizenship, and sportsmanship.

Unfortunately, these examples carry over into our kids lives as they watch t.v. and have social and educational experiences, situations, and play sports at school. The need for the use of better words and better language is a way to eschew conflict and violence in our kids school and during sporting events. The Bestie Boys lyrics “you missed two classes and no homework” “you gotta fight for your right to party”. Why not “you gotta only win fun better outcomes for your right to party?” Why are there fights at kids games by kids or adults? That’s non-sense! We don’t do that here.

By using better words and better language when describing an experience or situation you create good communication and good communication builds good relationships.

The following is my value graphic I use when helping and working together with an individual, group, or team to develop and make breakthroughs.

I’m always learning and apply the learning. Apply the use of better words and better language to see how civility and dignity by each person builds good communication, good relationships, and brings more civility locally, nationally, world wide, and globally.

Reflect on your experiences, situations, and sporting events. Could you have used better words, better language to create good communication and build good relationships to help and work together towards only win fun common better outcomes? Some win more, each wins, and no one loses unless there is violence.

What refulgent effect would this have in your family, with friends, in your workplace culture and in your environment? Would there be less stress, less anxiety, less yelling, less unhappiness, less loneliness, more civility, better outcomes, compassion, respect, helping and working together instead of denigrating and degrading your own or another person’s brain and mindset?

Apply the learning. This slight adjustment in our frame of mind I know and believe ignites peace over violence one on one, one by one.

“Praise people being careful, intelligent, and mature.” – Raj Gavurla

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“Endless” Speech In Written Form for You Addressing A Joint Session of Congress

My partnership with “Endless”

“Endless” edited his speech to be inclusive and added oratorical wisdom (i.e. “echoes of freedom”). Please read as he is preparing to address a Joint Session of Congress.

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Did You Win Or Lose?

“Make it team win fun.” – Raj Gavurla

Did you win or lose? How about thinking about it this way?:

A team or individual either has “team win fun”, “amazing fun”, “loss” (if it wasn’t fun for you), or it’s a “tie”. No one is a loser. Forward economic mobility not poverty, hate, and violence.

Make Lives Better To Earn Performance Breakthroughs To Earn Better Money

My Tennis Coach Manuel Was At The Tennis Court

“Take care of your mind. It’s the only place you have to live.” – Raj Gavurla

My teammates said, “there’s Manuel.  He’s coming.”  My tennis coach, Manuel, walked by the fence and I asked him “Coach, did you bring your workbook?”  He left it at home.  Then we played and coach was encouraging.

He asked what have you been doing to play so well?  I said, completing my Your Raise The Bar Primer: Mental Performance Tools workbook.  He said yes, but how the rapid increase in skill.  I said, in addition to the workbook I’ve been using my private advanced mental performance breakthroughs skills coaching sessions. People pay for that.

Then, he evaluated me instead of giving me feedback.  He said, I like this (the proportionally increasing line) using his finger, then he leveled it, and then it went downward.  He said the increasing and level is better.  You lost focus on the downward part.  Then, he said, “be careful”.

While using my workbook to evaluate my performance and to write what I am working on for more “win fun tennis”, I reflected on how I could “be careful”.  On the downward part, I wasn’t using my new focus technique before serving the ball and my mind’s eye.   I’m looking forward to my deliberate practice session to practically apply what I learned and to my next match.

If sports doesn’t produce income for you, how about using my workbook, private mental performance breakthroughs learning sessions (workshops), and highly customized individualized coaching for business and education in your workplace.  Yes, coaching use to be paid only for executives, however, you’ll create mental performance breakthroughs to listen to learn good to win fun, better earning, and experience greater when you use it throughout your workplace.

“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” – Seth Godin

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Independence: She Is Four Hundred And Four Years of Age (Age: 404)

“Win fun teams first.” – Affectionately Called “Endless”

My advisor and mentor, affectionately called “Endless”, says there are others like him.  While walking and deliberately practicing my storytelling for a program, I saw Louise in her yard.  I said, hi and we had a conversation. Never met her before.  During our conversation, I asked her the name of her children.  Being defensive she asked, “are you testing my memory”.  I said, “I might know them.”

Her children were friends with people I was friends with.  As we shared authentic honest dialogue we talked about many fun and high value aspects of living.  Then she shared with me she was four hundred and four years of age. Wow, “Endless” said there are others like him!  He’s six hundred years of age.

I said, “Louise there’s a lot more.”  We went for a walk and I was challenged keeping up with her speed.

As we walked we shared amazing interaction and conversation, which is really the essence of living.  It excited my being and soul and I’m excited about the “endless” possibilities of a better living and better future.

“The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions.” 

– Oliver Wendell Holmes

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Me First Or Others First? Sightings of Affectionately Called “Endless” Being Reported

“Know what you need, want, and have.” – Raj Gavurla

“Endless” addressed the thought on “me first” or “others first”.  He said it is “win fun teams first” (yes, plural). You’re on several win fun teams.  You might think it’s only me there is no one else.  Then, look at your environment. Those inanimate things, nature, and animals are on your win fun team.  And assuming you know one other person in this world you might need and want to recruit them to form another win fun team.  However, “Endless” is aware you are involved with an infinite number of win fun teams.  Your family is a win fun team, faith and/or belief system is a win team, doctor(s), nurses, friends, teachers, speakers, authors, innovators, entrepreneurs, nurses, coaches, mentors, job (your on several win teams, i.e. individual positive relationships, your department, designated win fun teams, business unit, organization/company), sports, community service, advocacy, groups, leadership, independence, you get the idea).

Yes, you are on win fun team humanity.

So, you might have heard the “me first” example of being on the airplane and the oxygen mask falls.  Do you put it on you first or the other person.  You first so you can help others live better.  Then, you might have heard the example of “do for others first”.  So, you might think someone will do for you since you do for others.  I hope so.

So “Endless” says, “win fun teams first”. Whoever does first for the other depends on the situation.  Does it make sense? Take time to find meaning in this to you.

“Do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

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Do You Dream Of A Resource To Help Solve Employees or Athletes Performance Development and Challenges?

“Being nice to yourself on the inside is greatness on the outside.” – Raj Gavurla

Do You Dream Of A Resource To Help Solve Employees or Athletes Performance Development and Challenges? Your employees are trained on hard and soft skills.

However, with mental performance skills training they will develop, build, and grow existing gifts, talents, and skills and discover new gifts, talents, and skills to elevate their performance.

Take this currently FREE Thrive With A Forward Performance Learning Assessment Module: http://www.RajGavurla.com

Better Self-Management

“Better self-management: Put brain, heart, and muscle power into it.” – Raj Gavurla

Lately there has been an increase in the use of the word “he/she/they/we don’t want” or “attitude” used instead of really helping the person who you think should want or have a positive attitude towards something.

Examples:

1.  “Because he/she doesn’t want to make an A”.  Most people want to make “A’s”.  So it’s ridiculous to say they don’t want to that’s why they aren’t.  Yes, the ability to teach is not a skill everyone has developed, built, grown, and usually the people who don’t have this skill revert to the two reasons why; “they don’t want to” or “attitude”.

Everyone’s situation is different, however, one way to increase reading comprehension, retention, and application of learning might be the following:

1.  Read the first paragraph of the chapter

2.  Read the last paragraph of the chapter

3.  Read the headings in the chapter if present

4.  Ask yourself questions as you read specific sections

5.  Write in the margins to denote its significance to you

Yes, this takes more prep time/work, however, it makes you faster in the end because of your ability to comprehend, retain, and apply the learning.

2.  You see this in the workplace also because people aren’t making sure all the relevant information is there or they have anxiety.  Trying to get through it as fast as they can without making sure to first check to see is all the relevant information there and if something is missing find it (research) and then put the steps needed to complete it with an estimated amount of time.  Realize, most people are working on multiple projects at work so put that into your time estimate and assign your time as “uninterrupted”, “regular”, or “interrupted” to accurately estimate the time.  This will take undue pressure off of you.  If someone wants you to do it faster without providing you the tools or methods to do so then tell them “that’s as soon as I can have it done”.  Put some margin in there for breathing room and unexpected events.  Planning helps.

3.  When I taught Career Planning & Exploration my students were future medical assistants, owners, entrepreneurs, computer technicians, and business management professionals.

To prepare, I learned about their course of study to grasp some of the vocabulary to relate to them.  As we prepared for mock interviews, I would ask relevant questions pertaining to their field as being knowledgeable and then play the role of someone who wasn’t knowledgeable about their field but had a role in learning to run a better business.  Seeing their qualitative answers in the debrief was insightful because of what was surprising, shocking, or went unnoticed. As they sat in a waiting room to prepare for a mock interview you could sense, see, and feel their brains, hearts, and muscles working.  One had received news a few hours before that her apartment was flooded, one was battling chronic pain, and the others had their situation.

They all did well in their mock interviews because of “better self-management”.  There were areas they felt they could have done better.  That’s very important to know you can do better by increasing your skills although you are already skilled (competent) in a specific skill.

So, to transform your performance think of these examples and how you relate (“adaptability link”) to them.  “Better self-management” makes it easier for you to transform your performance.

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” Theodore Roosevelt

For programs and services, contact Raj Gavurla at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com, LiiiVEN.